I don’t want to tell you how to be, but to help you be yourself, more fully and freely

I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist, sex therapist, and PhD student in human sexuality.  For the past six years, I have focused my studies on those erotically marginalized. I am committed to sharing and spreading a sex-positive view on transgender and gender-expansive sexualities in my research and in my clinical work.  It is important to me to provide an accepting and celebratory approach to everyone, including queer, gender-expansive, transgender, LGBTQ, polyamorous/ethically nonmonogamous (ENM), asexual, kinky/BDSM sexualities, and sex workers.

I am a white, queer, cisgender woman who practices consensual nonmonogamy. I am involved in sex-positive and BDSM communities, both personally and professionally. These communities are underserved and it’s a great passion of mine to help my clients find more connection and freedom, without needing to educate their clinicians about the practices, communities, or subcultures they are a part of. 

Since I began practicing nearly a decade ago, my work has focused on gender, relationships, and sexuality.  My areas of clinical focus have remained consistent since I began my journey as a therapist.  Clients who see me know that they are seeing a specialist in the problems they are facing. Many clients are drawn to working with me because of identities or communities that we share. 

Licensure:

California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #111549

Education & Training

  • PhD Human Sexuality, California Institute of Integral Studies (in progress)

    • Research focus: gender transition’s impact on partnered sexuality in transgender/cisgender couples

  • MA Integral Counseling Psychology, California Institute of Integral Studies

  • BA English/Creative Writing, University of Colorado, Boulder

Specialties

  • Polyamory, Ethical Non-monogamy (ENM), Consensual Non-monogamy

  • Polyamorous parenting and families

  • Transgender/Gender-expansive individual, couples, and relationship therapy

  • LGBTQ issues

  • Queer individual, couples, and relationship therapy

  • Gender-expansive sex therapy

  • Queer/LGBTQ sex therapy

  • Kink/BDSM Sexualities

  • Sex-positive communities

  • Sex-workers

  • EMDR

  • Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT)

  • Intersection of neurodivergence, gender-expansiveness, and consensual non-monogamy

My Story

I am one of the very lucky people who is doing exactly what I was meant to do in this world. I first entered therapy as a client feeling stuck in the same patterns, disconnected in my relationships, self-conscious about my body and sexuality, and challenged to even know my desires and needs, let alone communicate them.  The relationships with my therapists were catalysts for powerful healing, as so much more became possible in the safety of authentic care, warm regard, and purposeful challenge. The more I tended to my own healing, the braver I became with myself and in my life; the freer I felt from the old cycles; the more awareness and courage I had about my desires and needs, and the more connected I felt to my body and in my relationships.  

Let’s Work Together

  • Ethical Curiosity

  • Play

  • Accountability

  • Equity

My Values

Informed by my relational and intersectional feminist values, my training, and my experience on both sides of therapy, I see that the most important aspect of therapeutic work is the relationship between you and your therapist.  We are real people having a real relationship. Balancing gentleness and caring challenge helps my clients have deeper insights about themselves and their patterns, and to change how they approach their lives.  I want to help you feel better in your body and your life, and to empower you to make different choices in service of your desires. 

I hold a social justice and anti-oppression lens.  In part, this means that how you feel about yourself and your life are influenced not only by the things happening inside of you and your relationships, but also by the identities you hold and your location in the systems of power and privilege we live in.  I approach therapy systemically, meaning I look at how social location and experience in the dynamics of power and privilege inform how you feel and understand yourself, your relationships, your body, and your sexuality.

An important part of my anti-oppression framework is acknowledging the legacy of harm in my profession: of racism, transphobia, and misogyny.  It is important to me to be aware of and accountable for that history and work to recalibrate the power dynamics that have caused harm to so many in the past.  I aim to contribute to the transformation and healing of the therapeutic professions.